The Power to Design Your Life S.2 E.19
We all want to live our best, truest, and most fulfilled life. You can leave that chance, or you can make it a choice. Today, we’re talking about how you have the power to design your life!
Show notes:
In this episode:
In the first episode of this podcast we discussed three kinds of life- the caged life, the comfortable life, and the inspired life.
In the caged life, you feel trapped. You feel stuck in your relationships or job or social groups. You are unhappy more than you are happy. You wonder, is this all there is?
In the comfortable life, your life is easier. You have every reason in the world to be happy, but often, you are not. Your go to expressions is, “ It’s fine.” Its fine is a tell that you are in the comfortable zone. Life is not miserable, but it is not great either.
In the Inspired Life, you have a lot of energy and are proactive in making things happen that serve you. You have high levels of engagement whether it is a work or with your partner or family and friends. You are generally optimistic and look forward to things. You know what you want out of life and you are willing to work for it.
If the inspired life sounds good to you, then you will want to listen today as we talk about how you can design your inspired life.
Let’s explore drifting versus designing.
There is a chance that if you want an inspired life, it will happen naturally. But there is a better chance that you are going to have to be proactive in making that life what you want it to be.
Many people just drift through life. They are like a leaf in a current, drifting along, never resisting the current and going wherever the current takes them.
If you are drifting, you probably spend your days reacting to the challenges that appear. You feel ambivalent or even unhappy about your work, your home, the activities you are involved- pretty much everything. You might feel resentful of others, but don’t see another way.
Drifting teachers might complain about things at school or home, but don’t really do anything to fix it.
The other route is to design your life.
Think about what a designer does. They have a vision for what they want, and they work on developing and clarifying their vision. They have goals and plans and take action to make those plans come to life. They look for the challenges and rather than just deal with them, try to prevent them from happening in the first place.
In their book, Designing Your Life, which is based on a course at Stanford University, Bill Burnett and Dave Evans say, “Designers imagine things that don’t yet exist and then they build them, and the world changes. You can do this in your own life. You can imagine a career and a life that don’t exist; you can build that future you, and as a result, your life will change.”
A formula to help you design your life…
Here are suggestions based on what we’ve have learned by watching and interacting with people who successfully design their life.
Based on this, we offer you this formula:
- envision the life you want to live
- choose your priorities take actions accordingly
- create habits so that you do the most important things
- surround yourself with people who support you
Envision the life you want to live.
This might be a good place to mention that everything we are talking about here is in our book, The Inspired Teacher’s Journal: A Weekly Guide to Becoming Your Best Self.
Have you ever made a vision board? It doesn’t have to be an actual board. It is also not just a cutting and pasting activity.
The purpose of vision boards is to keep your dreams and wishes close to you. You need to see them every day, and remind yourself what you want and what you’re working for. Without a clear vision, it is easy to drift through life, accepting whatever comes your way.
You’ve probably heard of manifesting. Manifesting usually starts with vision boards, and often stops there. That is not how we go about designing a life.
Developing your vision means doing some soul searching. You need to look within to see what is important and what you really want out of life.
Your vision can also become part of your purpose, it is your “why”. When the going gets tough, having a strong vision will keep you focused and motivated.
Here are some questions to help you find your vision:
- If you were to describe your dream day, what would you be doing? Who would you be with?
- What kinds of feelings do you want to have on a daily basis?
- What do you love about your current life? What would you like to change about your current life?
- Are you trying to fulfill someone else’s dreams for you?
- Where or when are you your true, best self?
- What do you love to do? What are you passionate about?
- Who needs you?
- What is worth fighting for?
- When you look back on your life, what would you be proud to have done?
You need to own your vision. You can see it, and feel, it. The picture is clear.
Build support for your vision.
Support consists of action plans, personal habits, and how you connect with the people around you.
“Dream big and move your feet.”
You need action plans. How do you plan for action? You need a system to make sure you take action. What does it look like for you? Make sure you have a way to make things happen. If you leave everything until you get around to it, you’ll never get around to it.
You will need to devise habits that support building the kind of life that you want. It can be difficult to get rid of old habits and adopt new ones, but it is easier when you truly have a vision and goals you are working for.
Habits may be small, but they compound over time.
We often think of habits as something we HAVE to do, something that limits us. If chosen carefully habits can actually give us more time and freedom by eliminating choices and decisions we have to make. When it is a habit, you just do it.
In the book Atomic Habits, James Clear says, “Small Habits are a vote for who you are and who you want to be.”
Here are some examples of habits that support goals:
- If your goal is to read more, plan to read 20 minutes per day
- If your priority is quality time with your family, have supper together each night.
- If your goal is to spend more time with friends and becoming healthier try exercising with your friends.
What habits could you incorporate into your life that align with your vision for your life?
Get support as you design your life.
Shawn Achor researched how people achieve happiness and success with 1000’s of people in countries all over the world. He shared his findings in the book Big Potential.
His found out that “Individual effort does not account for the most happiness or the best performance.”
Achor says, “You can be a superstar, you just can’t be one alone. What you need is a star system; a constellation of positive, authentic influencers who support each other, reinforce each other, and make each other better.”
- Who is supporting you?
- Who is someone who will dream with you?
- Who can mentor you?
- Who encourages you?
- Who challenges you?
- Who loves you unconditionally?
We end with another quote, this one from Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy in their book Living Forward,
“Real transformation happens when people take responsibility for their own lives and begin to live intentionally in every area. When they begin recovering their passion and start seeing progress, their lives change. Changed people result in changed families, changed schools, synogogues and churches, and companies and governments. And when this happens, you begin transforming culture in profound and lasting ways.”
We say if often, you are more powerful than you think!
Recap:
Designing your life is not impossible. You need to envision the life you want to live. You choose your priorities and take actions and create habits so that you do the most important things. And you surround yourself with people who support you.
You don’t have to drift along, accepting whatever comes your way. You have the power to create a life that you love.
Quote:
Designers imagine things that don’t yet exist and then they build them, and the world changes. You can do this in your own life. You can imagine a career and a life that don’t exist; you can build that future you, and as a result, your life will change.”
Bill Burnett and Dave Evans
Resources mentioned in this episode:
The Inspired Teachers Journal: A Weekly Guide to Becoming Your Best Self, by Paula Schmidt and Michele Vosberg
Designing Your Life, by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Big Potential by Shawn Achor
Living Forward by Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy
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